Well… it probably makes the most sense to tell this story from my point of view (Melissa’s) because this truly was one of the most amazing days of my life. It’s so hard for me to even describe what an incredible two days I had just a couple of months ago. This man is just incredible.The thing is, we had already talked about getting married and were actually already started to make arrangements for the wedding. So there was never too much of a question as to whether I was going to say yes or not by this point! And because we had such a busy schedule and had so much to do before the wedding, I just assumed that the proposal would be very sweet, but very simple and quiet. And for some reason, I was completely convinced that he would propose to me in New York City since we were schedule to travel there the following week. It’s pretty obvious now just how off I was on my assumptions!
So we woke up on Tuesday morning and since Jerry had a meeting on the other side of the city, I was just going to walk to the studio while he took the car. We got ready, had breakfast and then said goodbye at the door and went our separate ways. Nothing odd, nothing different, just another day at work. I spent the day at the studio and was just in full-on work mode. We were leaving less than a week later to go on a 6 week trip so to say that we were a little busy at the studio was a total understatement.
So at around 2:00 or so in the afternoon, the front door opened and we heard the chime that someone had just come into the studio. Sally turns to me and says, “Are you expecting anyone?” I replied no, but said it’s probably just Jerry who was coming back from his meeting. Sally went to check and came right back to say, “Melissa, someone’s here to see you.” Which is very weird. So I went to the foyer and there’s a cute guy, very well dressed and he said, “Hello, Melissa?” “Yes?” He replies “It’s great to meet you!” So I thought he was a client? Or maybe photographer? Then he follows that up and says “I have strict instructions to have you come with me immediately.” So I look out the door and there’s a black Audi right outside our door (We’re right on a pier so there’s never any cars allowed this far down….) with the back door open. He says, “So just get your bag and follow me.” I suddenly got so very hot and my face got all red. I ran back to the production room and was just fumbling everywhere. I somehow managed to tell Sally that I had to go and she kept asking “Where??” “Who are you going with?” (Sneaky little bugger – I actually believed she was just as surprised as I was!) And I kept saying, “I don’t know!” It was the most surreal thing ever! I went outside and the driver escorts me to the car and I’m trying to ask him where we’re going, but he’s just smiling. I assumed that he was taking me to a restaurant and that Jerry was going to meet me there for a really nice lunch? At which point, I was really bummed, because I was definitely not dressed for a nice lunch. I had dressed super casually because it was going to be a long day at work. But I was still thought it was so romantic that Jerry wanted to take me out for lunch.
You see, what had completely thrown me off was that my birthday was the following day. Combine that fact along with the fact that I was convinced he wouldn’t be proposing for another few weeks, and I really had no clue what was in store.
Then, the next thing I know the driver pulls up right in front of our building and he turns to me and says, “Okay. Now I need you to go upstairs and pack an overnight bag and then be back down here no later than 3:50.” Now I wish you could have seen my face. “A what?!? An overnight bag?? Where am I going? What do I pack?” The driver just smiles again and says, “Just go upstairs, pack your bag. I’m sure your questions will be answered when you go there.” (Thank goodness I had my keys with me by the way!) So then I thought, “Ahhhhh, Jerry must be meeting me in the apartment. How romantic!” I got off the elevator and ran all the way to the front door, threw it open….. and no one was there.
All I saw was a big Chanel box on the kitchen counter. I almost died!! I ran into the kitchen, totally forgot to close the front door and opened the box. I knew what it was instantly. There’s this adorable little bag that we’ve been looking at for ages and I knew right away that he bought it for me. When I opened the box, there was a card designed by Karl Lagerfeld right at the top and it said, “Meli-mou (which is a nickname Jerry has for me…) You’ll need this for dinner tonight……” And then I turned the card over and it said, “………in Sydney. xoxo”
Moments after walking into the apartment…
I had to read – and reread – that note over and over again. SYDNEY??? As in Sydney – the opera house and Harbour bridge Sydney. Right now??? Who does this!? Then I started finding the post it notes. And there were several. The first one said:
First – do not call or text me. (Which was good because I had my phone in my hand to do exactly that).
Next go upstairs and pack something very nice for dinner tonight (very sexy). [Just in case I didn’t understand what “nice” meant, I guess...]
You will have time to get ready.
Make sure everything fits into a carry-on bag.
And there were a few other very beautiful notes as well and at this point I was half giggling and laughing and half crying. All this because I was turning 34! Who knew??? Not only that, I still hadn’t even talked to him. I was DYING that all of this was happening and I had no idea that he had planned any of it. I was running out of time because the driver was still downstairs and I now had about 15 minutes to pack and go. I went upstairs and there on the floor was my carry on bag, already opened, ready to be packed. Which was crazy because *I* left after him that morning. I started wondering if he had just parked across the street and waited for me to leave that morning? When did he have time to come back? I was too flustered to even try to work it out. And laughing and crying. This crazy, crazy, beautiful man.
When I was finished, I ran downstairs and there was the driver. I got in the car and he whisks me away again. He asked me if I knew where I was going yet, but I swear to you… I still wasn’t sure. Surely we weren’t going to Sydney right now. First, who does that? And secondly, we had SO much going on at the studio, there’s no way he would have just stopped everything. As a matter of fact, the studio calendar for the following day was absolutely filled with appointments all day long. (It was all a conspiracy though…they were all fake appointments that Jerry had “planted” earlier in the week.)
So I looked at the driver and said, “Are we going to the airport???” And he just smiled and away we went! I was just beside myself in the back seat of that car. Just giggling and laughing and DYING to talk to Jerry but I had my instructions.
Finally, when we were close to the airport I got a text message. It’s from Qantas Airlines, of all people, and you’ll never believe it…the text message contained my boarding pass. A boarding pass for Sydney. So I’m just laughing hysterically and so unbelievably excited and my heart is pounding because I’m SURE I’m about to see him at last.
So once we arrive at the airport, I thank the driver, run inside, get thru security and dash to the gate….and no Jerry. So then it finally dawns on me that he wanted me to get to the gate first and now he’s going to walk up on me. So I run to the bathroom, make sure I look okay, sit down and I wait. And wait. And wait. And now we’re about to board the flight. They call my row number – and still Jerry’s not here. Is it actually possible that he’s not even on this flight? Which worries me because my instructions ended at the airport. That’s why I assumed he was on this flight. I have nowhere to go after this.
I drag my heels but finally board the flight and I’m in the second to last row so I can see the entire plane in front of me. Every last seat was filled. And of course, no Jerry. Now I have to sit on this flight, giggling like I’m an absolute nut case and try not to die from excitement before getting there. I was in the middle seat, and I swear, my seatmates must have thought I was crazy. Halfway through the flight I stood up because I just could NOT sit still anymore and went to the back where the flight attendants were sitting and I was so nervous and so giddy that I just started chatting with them. One of the girls said, “Are you going to be in Sydney for long?” And I replied, “…….I don’t know! I didn’t even know I was coming to Sydney when I woke up this morning!” And then I told them the entire story. By the time we landed, they were giggling and so excited for me and kept saying they wanted to meet this gorgeous man who would do this crazy thing and for a 34th birthday. They were convinced that Jerry was going to be at the gate waiting for me – so did I – because that’s where all of the instructions ended. Oh my goodness – I can’t even express how nervous and excited I was. My heart was POUNDING! It was crazy!
Because I was in the back of the plane I was one of the last ones out and I had this little mini entourage with me. It was hysterical! I had the two flight attendants and another passenger who just joined into the conversation as well and they were following me out of the plane so they could go see Jerry for themselves. They were speculating that he would have flowers and that he was going to be waiting for me – it was all very exciting!!! So we finally get to the end of the walkway….and there’s NO Jerry.
Now I’m wondering…was he supposed to be on that flight? Did he miss it? Where am I supposed to go now?
So I slowly started walking towards baggage claim and don’t you know? There was another cute, very well dressed guy with a sign that said, “Ms. Tirado” just walking towards me. Can you believe this?? I know I couldn’t. It really felt so surreal. I was just dying to see Jerry and just kiss him and squeeze him. So I started laughing again and said, “Oh! Oh! That’s ME!!!”
So this man took my carry-on bag and I started following him. He introduces himself and says that he’ll be taking me to my destination. To which I reply “…which is??” And he looked at me like I was an absolute idiot. “You mean, you don’t know where you’re going?” And I was only too happy to my story yet again. “No!” says I. “I have no idea! I didn’t even know I was coming to Sydney went I woke up this morning!” And I promptly launched into the entire story again. I was so giddy! Meanwhile, he is putting on an oscar-winning performance and telling me that he had no idea and what an unbelievable story this is. But everyone’s been telling me this all day so far and by now, I’m not buying that line too quickly anymore. So I kept asking, “Do you know Jerry? Have you spoken to him? Where are we going? Is it a hotel? We’re not going to a restaurant yet, right?” So he started pointing out the sights as we were driving by, I think to shut me up. These drivers were so amazing. They were so into making me believe them. I truly fell for it. I only found out later that both drivers knew everything all along. They were brilliant.
Finally we pull up in front of this hotel and I just melted. It was RIGHT on Sydney Harbour (It was this hotel: http://sydney.park.hyatt.com/hyatt/hotels/index.jsp?null).
Then just before he steps out, the driver says, “Now. I need you to upstairs and get ready for dinner. I will be ready to pick you up in exactly one hour. Stay in your room and when I come back to pick you up, I’ll call up to your room. There will be some wine and snacks in the room, just unwind and take your time getting ready.”
Do you know what it’s like to be completely not in control of something? I’m always in control! I’m always the one that knows where we’re going, where we have to be, what time we have to be there. Now I’ve just spent an entire day not even knowing what my next step will be. I can’t even describe to you how luxurious, how pampered I felt.
The bellman took my carry on bag as I stepped out of the car and he said, “I’m so happy you could join us, Ms. Tirado.” Which is really bizarre since I hadn’t told him my name yet. Then he leads me inside and a man came out from behind a desk, shakes my hand, leads me to a chair and says, “We’re so happy to have you here, Ms. Tirado. Please have a seat here.” And at this point I can’t stop smiling wider than should even be legal. I just flopped in the chair and said, “Okay. I’ll sit. I’m just going to do what everyone tells me to do. No problems.” And they guy laughed. He said, “Now, I have some keys here for you.” Of COURSE you do! You know my name and you have some keys for me already.
I was just trying to still work out exactly how Jerry made all of this possible. We’re together 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I mean, I should really know if he was planning something! Here I am, sitting in the MOST BEAUTIFUL hotel I’ve ever seen and being treated like royalty. Two pretty blonde girls peek out from behind a door and give me a big smile and welcome me. It’s like everyone was in on this except for me. Crazy!
So the hotel man shows me to my room and I promise I’m not exaggerating about this…he opened the door. And I remember nothing more about that man. I don’t remember him saying anything, I don’t remember him leaving!! He opened the door and I saw the most spectacular room with the most breathtaking views I’ve ever seen. I must have been in a daze. The room was so huge and there was a giant balcony…..with a full on view of the Sydney Opera House RIGHT OUTSIDE the door. It was like I could touch it.
This room was so big that I was just running into the rooms back and forth, back and forth, because I didn’t even know what to take in first. Then I kept wanting to go into the bathroom, and I kept walking into the *closest* instead! Three times that happened to me. Wanted to go to the bathroom and I walked right into the closest. Remember Pretty Woman? The movie? I completely felt like that. (…without the prostitute part, as Jerry likes to point out every time I tell this story.)
Then I saw this GORGEOUS arrangement of flowers on the table that included my absolute favourite flowers. How did Jerry find them? I have no a clue. Then were a dozen chocolate covered strawberries. And a note that said simply, “See You Very Soon….” I can’t even describe all of the emotions I was feeling by this point. I love this man so much that words can’t describe. Who does this???

So now I’m really soaking it all in. First thing I did was take a shower. Do you know how cool this room was? I was in the bathroom (which is made up of 2 separate rooms, by the way) and as I’m in the shower, I have a direct view, through the room, out the balcony, to the opera house. I said out loud in the shower, “I’m taking a shower and looking at the Sydney Opera House.” It was unreal.

I then got out of the shower and then started getting ready for dinner. I got dressed, did my makeup perfectly, my hair, everything. I know knew that Jerry was obviously at the restaurant waiting for me. And that I was going to meet him there. So now I’m REALLY getting excited and my heart was starting to pound. And I just wanted to quickly get there so I could see him.
I had just put my shoes on when I heard a sound by the door. I remembered seeing housekeeping in the hall earlier so I thought they were thinking of coming in to do the turn down service. So I hurried to put the “Do Not Disturb” sign out and just as I turned the corner in the room…..THERE he was.
Jerry had just walked in and he was so perfect. He was all showered, in a beautiful suit and tie, his hair was all perfect and he just looked so BEAUTIFUL. There’s really no other way to describe it. It caught my breath – literally. I ran and he just gave me the most massive hug ever. And I could have stayed there forever. I was so happy and so…..amazed….at the entire day and so in love with him for going through so much just to give me a surprise.
The emotions I was feeling at this moment are indescribable. Even now. Because I was expecting to see him at the restaurant, there was no build up at all when I turned that corner and saw him. I just wasn’t expecting him to be there at all. And because of that, the emotions that I felt at that moment when I saw him were so….raw. They were so real. I was just completely and madly in love with him and just so happy to be right there in his arms.
This was the absolute best surprise of my life. And then before I could even think, or breathe, he went down on one knee and he asked me to marry him right then and there.

Moments after Jerry proposed to me…
To say that it was perfect is an absolute and complete understatement. It was beyond perfect. Perfect doesn’t even begin to describe it. It was just breathtakingly beautiful. And still, that was just the beginning of the evening. We then had the most spectacular dinner at restaurant with floor to ceiling 360 degree views. The restaurant spun around slowly so we had incredible views of Sydney the entire evening.
Then he surprised me AGAIN the next day and we went to Bondi beach to meet our good friends, Ryan and Jess Schembri for lunch (who also helped to plan the Sydney leg of my surprise) and then he booked a harbour bridge climb for the next day, too. It just never stopped.
He put so much effort into this. Down to the dummy appointments in the calendar to make me believe that we were completely booked out all week.
Anyways, I could go on and on and on, (and I probably will when I tell you this story in person), but I think it’s safe to say that I’m going to be spending the rest of my life with a really amazing guy.
~ by Melissa Ghionis
Welcome back to the BEST camera maufacturer on the planet !!!!!!
Kev
wuhooo!
I’m speechless!!! If I ever get to the level photographic expertise that you are at, I’ll def invest in an amazing Nikon!!! You crack me up!
Was there not a movie that had the line…”Yes ladies and gentelmen hes not as dumb as he looks!” Ahhh, yes, Ghosts of Girlfriends past where Matthew Mc(Whats his name) was a photographer and yes he was shooting a Nikon camera!!!!!
PS, Kidding about the looks thing, it was just in the movie
Booo… wish you’d come to this conclusion before I purchased my 5D2 haha! I do love the Canon but the iso is a problem and like you say I’m missing shots where the only way of getting it is to crank the iso up so high that it’s too grainy and soft to use. Man I want one of those Nikons!
I could cry!! I just bought the 5D2 this past weekend while waiting for the 5DIII….The BEST photographer ever switches to Nikon…wish I had known…too much invested now…pray that Canon follows suit!
Awesome first hand account of your experience Jerry! #winning ! HAHA
the low light performance is pretty spectacular and i’m hoping that by the time i upgrade our 5D Mk1s (all four of them), that level of ISO magnificence will have found its way onto the 5DMk3 or whatever it is by then!
Nikon ALL the way – it has always been the best! You know it!! Great ad for Nikon! You go Jerry
Oh dear Jerry, please shoot my wedding with your Nikonssss… I mean it
Cheers!
Jane
Welcome to the dark side . . .
Hey Jerry,
The Nikon system is definitely an amazing one for all the reason you stated, and I recently had the chance to play with a pre production D4 which really does take things to another level… however there is the Canon 1Dx which is just as good if not (marginally) better.
I’m a canon shooter and have been incredibly frustrated at their sluggishness in replacing the 1Ds Mk3 (which I love) but they really have pulled the rabbit out of the hat with this machine. the Low light focusing is just out of this world as is the high ISO performance.
I cant wait to have the 1Dx for a day next month before the launch and really see what it can do!
I’m looking forward to seeing your results with the Nikons
Sanjay
thank you!! i’ve been asking this question for the past year. i wanted an honest opinion from someone who has shot with both. not the fan boy that has only shot canon or nikon saying WHOOOT WHOOT.. this is it baby.
i’ve been at the point to invest in more glass, but not being kinda ugh on the canon focus.. i needed some real answers. so it looks like i FINALLY have the answer and from someone i truly respect. thank you thank you for taking the time to write this.
a future nikon shooter.
Thanks for sharing Jerry, it was really interesting to get your perspective on this, the ISO is definitely a restriction on creativity, I mean how much noise reduction can one do in PP??!!
Great history, you can’t talk about some system if you don’t know both sides. I’m a Nikon user and I love it, but I can’t say nothing against Canon equipement, because I never has been use seriously. When somebody ask me which is the best, I only have an answer: use what you feel good.
Way da go Jerry – Welcome back to your first love! Looking forward to what that extra ISO bump delivers to your creative output.
Cheers from the UK
Paul & Debbie Dakeyne
Its my first time on your blog and all I can say is: Great to see with a Nikon!
I’ve always been a Nikon user until a Canon manager asked me “What will it take for you to shift?” and offered me cameras and lenses at a ridiculous price. “She said if you are not happy with it, sell it at 2nd hand price and you’d still make money.” it made sense… so I did make the jump. I was excited for the new gear and shifted. Over a year after, as i was reorganizing my hard drive, i saw the shots and the difference. I loved the shots i took with my old camera more. Thats is when I decided to go back to Nikon for good (though I am still open to the idea that canon can come up with a better camera in the future though it has not happened yet).
I am glad you shifted!
Lets be honest though. Jerry could shoot with an iPhone and still produce award winning photographs. As he said “It’s the Chef and not the Oven”, but Jerry is some what of a special case when it comes to his creativity.
On a side note, we are still waiting for “THAT” image to be shown Mr Ghionis.
hello Jerry i too use two systems. Nikon and Canon.
but i find i seldom use Canon.
im happy you shifted perfect choice.
Oh Jerry!!! You have made my day! I shoot a D3s and my first time using it I shot a BB King Concert…10k ISO and near pitch conditions except on stage…and little to NO grain! It was instant LOVE!
As a Nikon shooter I would like to welcome you to the club. I agree that they are making great cameras. Especially for the high demands of wedding photographers. I have also been told that the Nikon wireless lighting system is much better than Canon’s.
Welcome to the dark side Jerry
fabulous story & now i want to upgrade my Nikon to the D4 too! i am looking forward to seeing the Geisha images! Love you guys!
Canon fanboy need to read this
I went the other way, I needed to upgrade my D300 to a full frame camera and had been using Nikon ever since going to digital. The toss up between the D700 or the 5D MK2 meant after a lot of pros and cons the 5d mk2 won. I often shoot up to 6500 ISO and love the grain; when it’s too much a little touch of Nik software Dfine 2 and it’s a great improvement, here’s hoping the MK3 is even better as I wont be swapping manufactures again its way tooooo expensive! Each leads for a bit then the other takes over.
waiting 5D Mark III
oh “S**T” many years ago I invested in canon 5D and then 5D mkII with L lenses in particular the 70-200 2.8. Not only that but also an ST-E2 transmitter a lowel ID light etc etc…….. why because thats what you used!!!
Try the 1dx mark iv and you will switch back. Lol.
I’m back for a little more inspiration : )
the most amazing wedding video i’ve ever seen. a beautiful insight into who you are and a joy to watch. thank you for sharing!